Is your child legitimately misbehaving, or is he or she feeling overwhelmed? Are you distracted? Is his or her behavior simply a plea for your attention? See listed ways to discipline a child than shouting
Did your child make you angry, or did something else upset you?
Taking a few moments to really consider these things will help put things in perspective so you can react appropriately.
Discipline and punishment are not the same,
Discipline means to train or develop by instruction and exercise especially in self-control why
Punishment on the other hand means suffering, pain, or loss that serves as retribution or a penalty inflicted on an offender through judicial procedure.
Steps To Discipline A Child
1. Limit Your Reactions.
When your child is not comporting, make it a point to take a 5-minute breath before you react.
Make sure your child is in a safe place, and then remove yourself from the situation or take a few deep breaths.
Think through the situation that occurred and your reaction to it.
Have you noticed that when you make a certain move, your dog will not imitate you, but your child will?
The ability to learn by noticing and burlesquing others is unique to humans.
it is so important that parents model the way they want their child to behave.
if you want your child to be respectful, you respect your child.
if you want your child to be kind, you’re kind to your child.
if you don’t want your child to hit, you don’t hit your child.
if you don’t want your child to be cruel to others, you aren’t cruel to your child and so on.
2. Think Before You Speak
Another great calm parenting tip is to remain silent. The problem with reacting at the moment is that we often say things we cannot take back later.
We may agree to things our child is asking for simply to keep the peace, threaten punishments that don’t align with our child’s behavior, or say mean things as a way to get our own anger out, but if we make a conscious choice not to speak until we can think rationally, everyone will be better off.
You won’t negatively reinforce your child’s behavior and will avoid unnecessary feelings of guilt later.
3. Stay Calm
Like a little boy told his mom to calm down it was funny but the truth, the video, and pictures of the boy went viral and people giving different comments concerning it.
On those days when your child really pushes your buttons and a 5-minute breather isn’t enough to bring you back to a place of zen so you can discuss the situation rationally, give yourself permission to take a time out to do something calming so you can gain perspective.
Remember that we are our child’s biggest role models, so exercising proper self-control can go a long way in teaching your child appropriate anger management skills.
Don’t be afraid to verbalize what you’re doing (‘I’m feeling angry right now, so I am going to take 20 minutes to calm down before I respond to you so he or she has a better understanding of the strategies you are using to stay calm as a parent.
4. Use Positive Discipline And Positive Reinforcement
Let’s be sincere here.
As a kid, when you were punished, during the punishment, did you think about why you were wrong and what you had learned?
Or did you think about how mean your parent was, how you wished you were not caught, how unfair the punishment was, and how angry you were?
When parents focus on using punishment to discipline, the child doesn’t usually learn the right lesson. The child learns to be skeptical and vengeful.
5. Discuss With Your Child
After a difficult situation has passed and everyone has returned to a state of calm, make it a point to sit down and talk to your child.
Remember that this isn’t a time to discipline or shame your child it’s a time to work together to figure out what caused the behavior to occur in the first place, discuss how you both handled the situation, and come up with solutions for the future.
Did something happen at school that upset your child? Is he or she in need of more one-on-one time with you?
The more open and honest you are in the discussion, the more comfortable your child will be in admitting the reason behind his or her behavior.
6. Start Again
No matter how hard you try to adopt positive parenting techniques in your quest to figure out how to discipline a child without yelling, you’ll still have days where you and/or your child lose your cool.
It’s all part of being human, but the way you respond to these situations can have a lasting impact on your child, so tread carefully.
Once the big emotions are out of the way, suggest that the two of you go your separate ways for a few minutes and then try again. If your child engaged in poor behavior, give him or her the chance for a do-over. If you’re both just in a crabby mood after a hectic and overwhelming day, you may even suggest crawling back into your respective beds for a couple of minutes, and then get up and greet each other as if it’s a completely new day full of hope and optimism.
Don’t be afraid to make this exercise silly and fun.
Laughter is often the best medicine, and as long as you find a way for your child to learn from the situation, finding ways to put it behind you both will go a long way in helping you end the day on a more positive note.
7. Identify Root Cause
For an instant, Sot him/ her down and try to find out why she did that. After asking some questions, You will find out that she really wants to play, but you never gave her time. From the moment she wakes up, You rushed her through every step …
ok, get up now!
hurry, go potty!
hurry, eat your breakfast!
hurry, put on your clothes!
brush your teeth, fast!
are you done yet? we need to hurry … etc.
She felt that she could only play while brushing her teeth. So the problem was she never had time to play in the morning.
Use encouraging words – when she was able to get everything done on time by herself, I would praise her for being efficient and making sure she wouldn’t be late.
By following these steps, you can diffuse the conflicts and resolve the issue.
No punishment is needed. Just a natural consequence.
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